Thursday, March 29, 2012

Family code fiasco in Slovenia

Even though polls before the referendum were leaning more in favor of the Family code*, thus falsely raising my hopes high, I knew I shouldn't hold my breath. After all, some things should never be underestimated in Slovenia: conservativism, envy and urge to stick your nose in someone else's business.

I admit that towards the end I was already a bit tired of all the arguments. Nevertheless it was extremely important to have them. Only public discussions of such topics can slowly change people's perception and challenge their embedded stereotypes.

I am not surprised by people's fear of challenging their own beliefs and opening up their minds to thinking that maybe they are not the ones to tell others how to live. I am also not surprised of people being homophobic and thinking that gays will start buying off children or massively adopting children of others. Or that majority closed their ears with both hands not to hear the arguments that same sex families already exist and this affects legal rights of their actual children, not some imaginary "future to be"children. Nor that this law doesn't take anything away from existing families, but gives rights to families that exist but don't have them yet.

Peoples screams of "endangering" the institution of nuclear family (which is anyway invention of capitalism), homosexuality being unnatural and similar were being heard loudly everywhere. People's mouths were all of the certain full of arguments what is best for children and how to protect them. Silly? Yes. Sad? Definitely. Surprising? No.

But what really pissed me off is the high moral attitude of people voting against it, saying they mind the "aggressive campaign" of those, arguing for the family code. Come again? You think pro human rights is more aggressive than spreading homophobic nationalist beliefs?

So maybe if gay people and their supporters would behave the way others wanted and expected them to, like quiet little mouses, slaving away their lives, trying hard not to bother anyone while pleasing everyone, then it would all be OK?

Well fuck you too! If some managed to get out of their closets, then maybe some can think about getting their minds out of the boxes. Enough is enough!

* Family code was progressive law cluster accepted in Slovenian Parliament on 16th June 2011 and was introducing serious improvement of children's rights protection and amongst other things also giving right to same sex families to form legal communion (not marriage) and adopt children. Group of right wingers, nationalist and some religious people called ironically Civili initiative forced a referendum on abolishing the law.  On 27th December 2011 Constitutional Court of Slovenia gave Ok to the referendum, which happened on 25th March 2012. Even though only 30% of all voters voted, a bit over 54% was for abolishing the Family Code.
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Saturday, March 17, 2012

Life in a suitcase

My belongings are stored in three different European cities while I'm travelling back and forth, it's not unusual to loose a sense of home. Is it in the country where you are born and your parents live, in a city which feels like home or where your love is? In the last year my home was mostly where my suitcase was. And again it's time for change.

After a bit over 2 wonderful years in Berlin I am packing up my stuff again and finding myself in Brussels. Because I would rather miss the city of my dreams than be away from the person I love.

Life is an adventure and this one has only started. So bring it on!